Your Guide to Common Questions

This website provides a comprehensive collection of questions that individuals often have about marriage and relationships. Whether you’re looking to strengthen your bond, navigate challenges, or understand your options, you’ll find a wealth of topics covered here.

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Key Principles of the System:

Focuses on Core Relational Dynamics: It moves beyond surface-level fixes to address the underlying patterns and beliefs that fuel conflict.

Understands Marriage as a System: Change can begin even if only one partner actively participates, as this shift inevitably impacts the other.

Builds the “WE”: It helps couples escape the “You/Me Trap” (where focus is on individual needs) and cultivate a shared identity and purpose.

Reorients to a “True North Star”: It positions commitment as the foundational element, encouraging couples to work through problems rather than abandon the relationship when challenges arise.

Offers Actionable Strategies: The system provides concrete, practical techniques (like “Giving Up Arguing,” “Acting as if…”, “Benefit-Of-The-Doubt” thinking, and setting boundaries) to create immediate and lasting change.

Guides Through Difficult Stages: It acknowledges and provides pathways through painful phases like “Emptiness” towards genuine intimacy.

Encourages Relationship Evolution: It challenges couples to not just grow, but to evolve their relationship into a new, stronger paradigm, viewing crises as opportunities for this transformation.

“I am amazed…a whole new outlook…
I sat and read your modules last night. I read from about 7pm to 12am. I am amazed! After reading, I have a whole new outlook on our marriage. After reading, I am prepared to make the necessary changes and shifts in order to have the marriage I’ve always wanted.

Mary Beth M.

“Radically different…I finally have hope..
My marriage has been in trouble for years. I’ve read other books. . . your ideas are radically different from the others. I’ve never read anything like it. Now, things are improving. I finally have hope!”

Brad R.

“My relationship is much better…
For the record… let me just say that your guide is the most sensible, real, self help book of any kind that I have ever read… …These things that you talk about in your book are real, so simple—THEY JUST MAKE SENSE… My relationship with my husband has gotten so much better !! thank you, thank you thank you”

Robin R.


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We delve into Dr. Baucom’s principles for identifying and addressing relationship issues, offering an alternative to traditional therapy by focusing on understanding marital crisis stages and clearing misperceptions as the primary path to recovery.

Our goal is to help you explore strategies that can address underlying issues before they cause irreparable damage. We believe it’s possible to transform a relationship even if only one person is actively trying, aiming for a “new beginning” that makes the marriage stronger than ever.


Learn to defuse tensions and stop destructive arguments.

Address deep-seated problems and misperceptions.

Rebuild trust and strengthen your connection.

Potentially transform your marriage even if you’re the only one initially committed to change.

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If you’re serious about saving your marriage and creating a relationship filled with love, connection, and mutual respect, we encourage you to learn more about Dr. Lee Baucom’s “Save The Marriage System.”